This week’s post is a little tough love. If you are incredibly unhappy…it’s your own fault. Sure, that lady at the grocery store might have been extremely rude to you. Your day might have been busier than you anticipated and actually wanted. You might have been looking forward to going out with your friends and having a good time this weekend, but one of your friends got sick and now they have to cancel. Are you going to let what others do or don’t do upset you? If so, you are playing into the victim mindset!

The victim mindset DOES NOT serve you! You cannot change other people, and by letting other people’s actions affect your happiness, you are basically saying that you have no control over your life! Or, even worse, that you don’t DESERVE happiness! The interaction with the rude lady at the grocery store you encountered only lasted 5 minutes. Why allow that to negatively affect the other 1,435 minutes in the day? Your busy day – maybe take a few minutes to acknowledge how grateful you are to have a job where you are valued. Your friend that cancelled…be happy that she is taking the time she needs to improve her health. Schedule a night in, and then plan to go out the following weekend.

We cannot change people or the situation, however we can change how we respond to those things. Smile to the lady who was rude to you at the grocery store and move on with your day. Leave your overbooked work day at work and enjoy the calm at home. Get excited for your next night out with your bestie! No one is responsible for your life besides you, so what you can do today to create more happiness in your life?